Cyberbullying victims need more support and attention to tackle this insidious threat. At Blue Box Storage Doncaster, we are passionate about educating you about bullying through our medium of work, and we believe that Self-Storage can make a real difference. We provide a helpful and friendly service that we use to obtain an understanding towards mental health in both older and young people’s minds. That belief has guided our work with sites over a number of years.
Bryan Merrett, Managing Director of Blue Box Storage defines bullying as repeated, health-harming, and mistreatment of one or more employees. By just one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms such as, verbal abuse, offensive conduct/behaviours and sabotage. This can prevent work from getting done. The Primary issue with bullying is that the perpetrator desires to control the other person’s behaviour, usually for his or her own needs, personal agenda, or motives regarding storage units.
Bullies and Manipulators are often extremely controlling people who are attuned to certain personality traits to exploit others. However, they are skilled people readers and make it their task to understand someone’s flaws to determine what technique can be used against them.
Signs of Bullying
Sometimes, bullying can go unnoticed in the workplace because it is a slow process of emotional and psychological manipulation that is hard to prove and detect. It is also not protected under the law, so technically, bullying is not considered harassment which means legally, people can get away with it. (That’s crazy)
Here are 5 signs of bullying that you may be missing, but when you know the pattern of these behaviours. These subtle signs are all used to create an emotional reaction, usually anxiety and depression.
- Deceit. Repeatedly lying, not telling the truth, concealing the truth, deceiving others to get one’s way, and creating false hopes with no plans to fulfil them
- Intimidation. Overt or veiled threats; fear-inducing communication and behaviour
- Ignoring. Purposefully ignoring, avoiding, or not paying attention to someone; “forgetting” to invite someone to a meeting; selectively greeting or interacting with others besides a victim
- Isolation/exclusion. Intentionally excluding someone or making them feel socially or physically isolated from a group; purposefully excluding someone from decisions, conversations, and work-related events
- Rationalization. Constantly justifying or defending behaviour or making excuses for acting in a particular manner
This is why Bullying is so bad
Bullying and Manipulation of the Self-Storage industry can affect our employees physically, emotionally and psychologically, which they may experience a great deal of distress as a result.
This can manifest itself into frustration, anger, anxiety, insomnia, and inability to concentrate with other physical and emotional symptoms. Often sometimes, employees don’t even recognize bullying, some may feel a vague discomfort at work towards their perpetrator that they cannot recognize. Others may feel that they are on an emotional rollercoaster with the bully, they may sense that they are experiencing toxic, unfair, or disrespectful treatment at times, but can’t understand why. Employees may fear seeing the individual bully, not enjoying team building tasks or activities they liked before, and can even become physically ill from the stress.
What HR Needs to Do
Not everyone plays fair and nice at work, it’s a ‘cruel cruel world’ you need to make sure you protect your employees from disrespectful and unfair treatment in the workplace. No employee deserves to feel uncomfortable at work. Here are some steps to take.
If you are an individual or manager doing any of the above, either knowingly or unknowingly, it’s critical that you stop your actions. They are harmful and destructive. If you are the co-worker of an individual experiencing mistreatment, question it and tell someone. Likewise, if you are in HR, it is imperative that you take bullying seriously and follow the guidance above to protect and help your employees who may be affected by manipulative and bullying behaviour.
Our employees deserve to work in a respectful, fair, and comfortable work environment where others around them, particularly those of authority, aren’t trying to control them or manipulate their behaviour. It’s all of our responsibilities to make sure they leave every day, at a minimum, with their self-respect, dignity, and well-being intact and unscathed by our actions. If they aren’t, we’re not doing our jobs and we risk good employees eventually walking away when they realize they don’t need to be treated this way anymore.